Quote Boat: The Time Traveler’s Wife

I’m about halfway through The Time Traveler’s Wife by Audrey Niffenegger and a couple of days ago I came across the following quote

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Context: Claire’s grandma finds out about Henry and tries to caution Claire about the potential life she will live with him.

It instantly got me thinking about mothers in fairy tales. Since I only remember these stories vaguely, I could only come up with a generalization: Rarely do mothers take an active role in fairy tales.

I say rarely because I am presently unaware of any fairy tale that contradicts this. For all I know, there could be a few that contradict my generalization.

I couldn’t shake it off. I wanted to know more. I was confident that I would find an article or a blog post exploring this theme.

I found an article on the website, For Book’s Sake, and it provided a nice overview of the different females and their roles in fairy tales. Specifically on Mothers:

Mothers are never protagonists. Goldilocks, Jack and Red Riding Hood have mamas who embody a child’s-eye view of a parent – the big someone who tells you to do the right thing, a straw doll; set up to be gleefully smashed down.“-Vanessa Woolf-Hoyle

This other blogpost I read seems to justify how Mother’s are presented in fairy tales. That, in order for the protagonist to grow they need to, more or less, go out into the world. And of course a caring mother wouldn’t want her child to be doing something potentially dangerous.

Although it makes sense, that kind of perspective paints a general picture that Mothers are more of an obstacle than a person/ character who can potentially function in various ways in a story. And perhaps it varies from culture to culture. The fairy tales I grew up with (and I feel are more widespread) are predominantly Western.

I’m pretty sure more critical writing has been done on this subject. Something I’ll be looking into in the future.

What do you think?




Quote Boat: Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky

“Despite everything my mom and doctor and dad have said to me about blame, I can’t stop thinking what I know. And I know that my aunt Helen would still be alive today if she just bought me one present like everybody else. She would be alive if I were born on a day that didn’t snow. I would do anything to make this go away. I miss her terribly…”- The Perks of Being a Wallflower.

This quote takes me back to the tenth grade, a time in my life where I was truly unhappy. My mindset was very negative back then…I used to blame myself for a lot things that I am presently convinced that it is not my fault. For example, if family members fought with one another I always managed to blame myself. No one physically said it was my fault or implied resentment but I’d still sit there and let the those horrible thoughts take over. That and many other things to deal with, tenth grade me could not handle it very well. No wonder I was depressed.

I’ve come out of that “pit”. It was difficult and I am forever grateful to the supportive people that helped me recover enough to be able to stand on my own two feet.Metaphorically speaking. However, I do slip back into that messed up mindset of mine from time to time. Depression comes in waves and just like the song Best Friend by Foster the People goes, “It comes in waves, but it’s hardest from the start”. I get depressed from time to time but the first time was the horrible. I didn’t know what to do, “why” I was feeling that way or who to talk to…


Let me not completely ruin your mood. If you are still feeling sad let me metaphorically hug you*hug*.

I’m enjoying the novel so far. I like that the content is divided into letters. It makes me feel like I’ve discovered a stack of letters up in the attic. A friend of my mine asked if I related to any of the characters and I feel that my past self would have related to Charlie at an extraordinary level. I wish I had read this book back in the tenth grade.

I’ll continue reading later.